The Power of Reframing
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But first, a quick review. When it comes to the concept of resiliency, here's the main message: taking care of yourself is not selfish. In fact, it's essential.
Because the job is stressful, we need to take time to develop and refine our own ability to cope during challenging times. If you are to become the superstar educator you were meant to be, you have to take care of yourself. A great starting point is practicing gratitude.
Even when gratitude is a regular part of our thinking process, there are still times when the situation or events in the classroom require us to do a few more mental gymnastics. When times get stressful or difficult, reframing the situation is a great tool
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In a nutshell, reframing is the practice of taming that internal voice. It's about talking to yourself and telling yourself the truth when times are difficult. It's about choosing to think differently (and talk to yourself differently) when faced with a challenging situation.
On a recent trip to the San Francisco, I got stuck in traffic. Really horrendous traffic. Finding myself getting frustrated at the lack of progress (and the confusing lay out of streets and freeways in the Bay Area), I started to grumble. I wasn't pounding the steering wheel in anger, mind you. But I was annoyed and the charm of a beautiful city was quickly wearing off.
In the midst of that traffic-induced frustration, I reframed the experience. I chose to look at my current situation from a different perspective. That's all reframing is; choosing to view a situation, a relationship, an environment, or a context from a different point of view. While it's not necessarily easy, it's extremely powerful.
Here is what I said to myself, "At least you get to spend some more time in this new rental car. When you get home, you drive a 6-year-old Honda that is overdue for an oil change and a tire rotation. And, at the end of the day you don't have to get this car washed. Someone else will do that."
Reframing is all about looking at something differently. Because I chose to think about the San Francisco traffic differently, I was able to lower my levels of stress. Resilience consists of two things: how we think and what we do. It consists of our thinking patterns (including that voice inside our heads that we talk to) and the coping mechanisms we use when things begin to be challenging.
When I told myself that the traffic delay was an opportunity to enjoy a new car, it changed the way I thought about the situation. I didn't paint a false picture that it was a great experience or that I was lucky to get caught in traffic. I didn't tell myself that it was equivalent to a pleasant stroll along the beach. But that simple little change – electing to focus on the positives of my current situation – lowered my stress, re-oriented my thinking, and allowed me to relax a bit.
In school settings, when we practice the art of reframing, we begin to view challenging students, difficult colleagues, un-communicative leadership, or inadequate resources differently. Although a bit cliché-ish, reframing is telling yourself that the cup is indeed half-full. It's not actually changing the situation; it's merely choosing to focus on the positives of the experience.
In full disclosure, reframing is not always easy. It takes effort to find the positive in the midst of an ugly or uncomfortable state of affairs. And, it takes practice. Here are two great tools you can use to help instill a habit of reframing:
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Go from "have to" to "get to" – When you think of some of the duties and tasks that you are responsible for, adopt the mindset of "I get to..." rather than "I have to...". For example, you may need to return a phone call to a parent that you anticipate will be challenging. Rather than say, "I have to call this parent", say to yourself, "I get to call this parent". That one small change may be enough to shift thinking in order to help see the phone call as an opportunity rather than an obligation. Plus, when we view things as opportunities, we are less likely to procrastinate or avoid them altogether.
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Repeat the phrases, "Nothing lasts forever" and "This too shall pass". A variation of those statements is the question, "Will this matter in 1 week?" Much of the time, the answer is, "No, not really". Why get upset, bothered, or stressed out about things that, in the big scheme of life, don't matter all that much.
Dr. Steven Wolin, an expert on the development of resilience says this, "Reframing is at the heart of resilience". Resilience is not about ignoring or downplaying the challenges in front of us (or the past traumas we are overcoming), it's about looking at them differently. Reframing is especially important as we strive to meet the needs of students who may have behavioral and/or learning difficulties.
Application Point : Follow the advice of Dr. Kenneth Ginsberg (a physician who works with children overcoming serious medical issues). He reminds us that in order to thrive, we must view the people around us as individuals with strengths, hopes, dreams, and assets. The people around us (although they might be a source of frustration or confusion at times) are not broken people who need to be fixed. For some of us, that is a significant shift in thinking right there – even the "problem" kids and the difficult colleagues have strengths. When we focus on those strengths, great things happen.
Take a moment and think about a student who is currently struggling in your class. They might be struggling because of an academic gap or they might be demonstrating negative or unproductive behaviors. List that child's strengths.
Is that child passionate? Caring? Do they have great attendance? Do they stick up for their friends? Are they an athlete or cook or artist or dancer?
When we begin to view others as unique individuals with discernible strengths, we can begin to reframe our interactions with them.
As a super-extra bonus idea, try this: after you've made that list of a student's strengths share it with that student and their family. Tell the child all the good you see in them. Tell the parents as well. The simple act of identifying and communicating those strengths will do wonders for both teacher and student.











